🧠 Turn Overthinking Into Powerful Self-Reflection -It’s Not You, It’s Me:
Are you constantly caught in loops of overthinking, self-doubt, and emotional noise? You’re not alone—and it doesn’t have to stay that way. In this week’s episode of Spiritual Awakening with Shaz, I’m joined by Rosemary Gattuso, a Strength-Based Facilitator, Mediator, and Author of It’s Not You, It’s Me: A Chronic Overthinker’s Guide to Self-Reflection, to explore how you can turn overthinking into powerful self-reflection and reclaim clarity, calm, and conscious direction in your life.
Together, we explore how self-reflection as a spiritual practice can break the rinse-and-repeat cycle of negative thinking, strengthen your sense of self, and reconnect you with peace and personal power.
What Is Overthinking and Why Does It Matter?
We all do it—overanalyse, second-guess, spiral into fear-based thinking. But what exactly is overthinking, and why is it so damaging?
Rosemary offers a clear definition:
“Overthinking is an analysis of a situation that focuses on what’s wrong.”
This mindset keeps us stuck in judgment, fear, and regret. It activates the fight-or-flight nervous system, shutting down clarity, connection, and creativity.
From “What’s Wrong” to “What’s Strong”
Here’s the game-changer:
Self-reflection is an analysis of a situation that focuses on what’s strong.
If you’re capable of overthinking, then you already have the tools to self-reflect. It’s just a matter of shifting your inner dialogue—and that starts with awareness.
🌀 Key concept: You’re not the negative thought. You’re the one observing it.
How to Turn Overthinking into Powerful Self-Reflection (Without Spiritual Bypass)
Rosemary shares a practical tool from her legal background:
“Would this thought stand up in court?”
If there’s no solid evidence for your overthinking, why are you giving it so much weight?
Other strategies we discuss:
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Gratitude lists: To shift from lack to abundance
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Journaling: To externalise toxic loops and reframe
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Meditation and mindfulness: As daily “brain workouts” for emotional regulation
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Movement and creative flow: Like walking, crocheting, or colouring to release mental tension
✨ Reminder: All of these are accessible. Even 30 seconds a day counts.
How Spirituality Helps You Turn Overthinking into Powerful Self-Reflection
Overthinking dims intuition. Spiritual self-reflection turns the volume back up.
This episode highlights how reflection:
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Reconnects you with your higher self
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Clears the noise to make room for inner guidance
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Brings the nervous system back to safety so you can manifest with clarity
“We’re here to learn lessons—and if we miss them, the universe replays them. Not to punish us, but to offer mastery.” — Shaz
Who This Book Is For (Hint: Probably You)
Originally written for women 35+, Rosemary’s book has touched a much wider audience—from professionals caught in loops of imposter syndrome to empaths overwhelmed by emotional noise.
If you’ve ever said:
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“I’m not good enough.”
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“What if this goes wrong?”
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“Why do I keep repeating this pattern?”
…then this book is for you.
Takeaways from Turn Overthinking into Powerful Self-Reflection
- You are your own rescue.
- The shift from overthinking to reflection changes everything.
- Mindfulness, journaling, and strength-based thinking work—and they’re simple to begin.
- Your words and thoughts shape your experience. Choose wisely.
Resources Mentioned
📚 It’s Not You, It’s Me — Get the book from rosemarygattuso.com
🎙️ Listen to the full episode here.
Final Thought: What If It Does Work Out?
You’ve played the “what if it goes wrong?” game.
Now ask: What if it goes right?
Because it just might—and you deserve to find out.
